DAY 4 + RELATIONSHIP SHIFTS ———————————————————
Oh gosh, all I can think is my poor hubby. He probably feels like chopped liver 😩💕
🔹That being said...I’ll start with the good again...when Kenzo arrived my love for @christianmarc grew even stronger and I believe he would say the same for me, if asked. It was a new love. A deeper bond. Our baby was here, in our arms. So from that aspect it so was incredible to see how amazing he was as a father, even though he already is a father to two amazing older boys.
🔹Motherhood is all encompassing. It takes every ounce of your being, so it’s easy to forget everything else and get lost in the abyss of it. Which is what I have done, in turn, leaving my relationship to the wayside. My hubby is one of the most patient, understanding & kind men I’ve ever met so he’s never made me feel bad for putting us on the back burner, but I know it’s a bummer for him and myself too.
🔹Our communication since the beginning has been pretty solid. Being a postpartum Doula, I know that communication is so important for new parents during this time. Not every day has been easy by any means, we’ve had some really tough days, but thankfully the good outweighs the bad.
🔹When I say our relationship was left on the wayside...I mean the waaaaayside. Sure we do stuff together all the time, but ALWAYS with Kenzo and never just the two of us. It wasn’t until last week that we finally had our bedroom to ourselves.
🔹Making a conscious effort to spend more time together, just us two has finally become a priority to me. Back to yesterday’s recalibration of self. Reconnecting deeper spiritually. Going back out together like we used to(minus me getting as intoxicated as before) dancing, laughing, movie nights...those days aren’t over, they are just not as frequent. That’s okay, as long as we take time for one another.
🔹Continued communication...I can’t stress this enough. I am a talker, I believe in discussing all aspects of nearly everything. In turn, hubby doesn’t have a choice but to talk it out with me.
Be kind to one another. Find time for one another. Support one another.