Two words we hear nonstop during pregnancy-DUE DATE!

Simply put-due dates are a guess! Your baby is going to arrive when they choose. The anticipation in those final weeks can be full of so many emotions.

If you are preparing for a belly birth - timing is set and you do in fact know.

Now what?

Let’s get prepared 🥰

Myself and @loveofalittleone are sharing ways to best prepare for birth

• Create your idle birth + focus your energy on that with your partner, but surrender to the fact that birth is the unknown. The thing I found most important was ultimately, no matter how much I wanted the birth I did, I knew there was no way to guarantee it would happen. I focused what I wanted & would say, I surrender to the unknown + accept that baby will enter the world the way they are meant to. It does not mean I failed or my body failed. It just meant the universe had a different plan + that was ok. Giving myself that power of acceptance, I felt would have allowed my postpartum healing to have gone smoother, had it not gone as I anticipated. -

• Listen to guided birth meditations or whatever words of empowerment you need to focus for the birth you desire. -

• Talk to your baby & have your partner. There is substantial research babies begin to hear around the 18th week in utero. -

• Get this! Research, although limited shows that baby begins to create memories around 30weeks utero. Incredible! I used to tell Kenzo every day, especially towards the end - I TRUST YOU. I hope you trust mama to do this dance with you. I can’t wait to hug you, smell you, kiss you. I truly feel this made a difference.

• Be kind to yourself. Birth can be scary. It is normal to have fears. I found when these crept in, I allowed myself to feel them, release them + replace it with a positive thought & visualization. -


•Talk in depth to whomever is going to be at your birth + what role you would like them to play. -

• Birth will push you to limits you didn’t know you had. No matter which way your baby chooses to come - YOU WILL DO IT!! I am proud to be partnering with @providencecalifornia #mamayouvegotthis #limitedintervention #shareddecisionmaking #providencecalifornia

#motherhood #lgbtq #breastfeeding #parenting #newborn #informedconsent #mother #family #birth #pregnancy #labor #birthteam #birthsupport #doula #postpartumdoula

Here you are - now that you’ve met with a few providers & narrowed it down to one(s) you felt

aligned with your pregnancy questions, it’s time to ask L&D questions. I cannot stress enough, providers work for YOU!

Myself & @loveofalittleone are sharing our Top 44 Birth Questions.

Today @loveofalittleone will share Top 11 - make sure to follow along as we post more next Weds. Nov. 20th.

👇🏼 are ❓we feel are most important when finding a provider who aligns with all of your questions/concerns etc...




- ¤ Do you ask for consent before performing any procedures on myself or baby?


¤ Do you support delayed cord clamping?


¤ Do you respect my choice for NO vaginal exams during labor unless 100% medically necessary and discussed before?


¤ Do you have immediate IBCLC/lactation support for after birth?


¤ What are your maternal and infant mortality rates for WOC & their babies?


¤ Do you practice evidence based care as a Dr. caring for the needs of BIRTHING PERSON + BABY & not yourself out of convenience. -


¤ Are you familiar with the rates in which black women + babies die at a 343%(3-4x) higher rate than white women, why & what initiatives does your hospital take to change that? How do you feel about the disparities in health care for Black women & babies? -


¤ Does the hospital Strive to Achieve the WHO/UNICEF Ten Steps of the Baby-Friendly Hospital Initiative to Promote Successful




¤ Do you support VBAC & what are your VBAC rates?


¤ Do you practice “rooming-in” meaning allow birthing person & baby to be together 24hrs a day?


¤ Do you practice the same standard of care for ALL birthing people - LGBTQ, POC and all marginalized communities?

If the care provider(s) you felt connected with after asking your pregnancy questions are unable to answer all of the L&D ❓you chose to ask without a clear & concise response, its ok to walk away. You will when you find the right one.

@providencecalifornia is on a mission to EMPOWER and EDUCATE pregnant people and I’m proud to #partner with them to make POSITIVE CHANGE! #limitedintervention #shareddecisionmaking #yourbabyyourway #ProvidenceCalifornia #mamayouvegotthis


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